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Why are Living Room Conversations structured the way they are?


Living Room Conversations increase understanding, reveal common ground and allow us to discuss possible solutions. No fancy event or skilled facilitator is typically needed. When people of all walks of life begin tocare about one another, they can begin working together to solve the wicked problems of our time. 

  • Why is it important to follow Living Room Conversation’s structure and process?

    • It helps us practice the lost art of deep listening!

    • The structure helps us set up and keep agreements with each other to do things in a way that is clearly stated - from the ground rules to the rounds of questions.

    • The process keeps participants’ attention on the quality of the conversation and not on wondering “what will happen next?”

    • Our conversation guides are specifically designed to maximize your experience -  the rounds of conversation build on each other to increase the depth of the conversation quickly.


  • Why have ground rules?

    • To help us engage in a respectful conversation that supports openness and curiosity rather than debate.

    • Ground rules let us know what is expected of us and help create a safe environment for a great conversation.

    • It is a good idea to consider if the co-host and guests you want to invite will be good at honoring the ground rules.  If you doubt their ability to do this then they are likely not the right people to invite. The good news is the role of host and guest are powerful and most people are thoughtful and capable of being part of a great conversation.  


  • Why the 5 rounds of conversation?

    • Round 1 is for introductions. It’s an icebreaker to share how we came to be in this conversation.

    • Round 2 helps us learn about each others’ values and perhaps find something in common before jumping into the topic round.

    • Round 3 is the topic round. Here, Living Room Conversations provides questions that draw out our personal stories and helps each of us see where our beliefs may have developed.  We encourage spending more time on round 3 than the other rounds.

    • Round 4 allows us to pause briefly to reflect on what we may have just learned and what we appreciate about the conversation so far.

    • Round 5 helps us identify if there is common ground and declare any action we might want to take as a result of this conversation.